A few years ago I wrote a blog post about an article by Nora Ephron, in which she and her friends describe themselves using only 5 words, and how those words change over time.
I think this was right after I had attended Dev Bootcamp, and my 5 descriptive words were “feminist, maker, married, evolving, hopeful”. Now it’s been 2 years since that blog post, and my words have changed a little.
Now I would describe myself as “dependable, adaptable, loving, ambitious, feminist”.
Why did I choose those? Well I’m still a feminist, but I consider that more of a given and less of something that I need to scream out loud so I moved it to the end. Maybe I’ll drop it in a few years to make room for things which become more important to me.
I still make things, but I don’t really associate with the DIY-maker culture (at least, I don’t associate with the way that culture manifests itself in San Francisco) so I bumped “maker” from the list.
I’m still very happily married, but after 5 years I feel like I’ve kind of gotten use to the newness of my marriage and settled in for the long-haul. Like feminism, I no longer feel like I need to shout it out loud, so I replaced it with “loving” because I feel like it better describes me as a person and includes not only my relationship with my husband but also with my friends and family as well.
“Evolving” and “hopeful” were very much reflecting the time period in which I wrote the post. I had just graduated from DBC, was out of work, and trying to keep myself motivated. In that same way, “adaptable” and “ambitious” are applicable to some of the situations I find myself in now.
I also went with “dependable” because that is a constant in my life. With some exceptions, I tend to be the steady rock that my loved ones can count on. That’s not the case 100% of the time, but it’s often enough that I felt like I should include it here.
I’d like to keep doing these posts every couple of years to get a feel for how I’ve changed.